One Bald Man To Another
Got a note from a fellow bald man who stumbled across my little site. Rather than respond privately, I thought I’d do so here. He writes in part:
i’m a 28 year old christian guy who is quickly becoming a fellow bald man. it has been totally devestating for me. i was wondering if i could ask you a couple questions about how you dealt with it as a christian.
An interesting question, and one I’ve never really considered. Let me preface my thoughts with my own balding history.
I began losing my hair at age 16. I always had fine hair, and let’s just say it started getting noticeably “finer.” I began to grow it out at university more out of slovenliness than anything else. Finally, as a 20 yr. old junior, I made the big move. On a cold January day I borrowed my roommate’s clippers, and have ever since been the shining citizen you see now. What’s left of my hair has gradually gotten shorter, though I’ve never spent enough time grooming to keep up a 100% shaved skull.
I always viewed baldness as inevitable, and never gave it much worry. I was lucky enough to nab a girl who understands. (We started dating in high school, so she’s gone thru the whole thing with me.
I can only imagine what my balding inquisitor is experiencing. To go thru such an obvious transformation in the midst of career and possibly family. To be surrounded by the culture’s relentless message: “baldness is emasculating (Bullshit!); baldness is unattractive (Untrue generalization); baldness should be corrected.” So to him I offer these thoughts, off the top of my head, of course:
- If baldness is a corruption introduced by sin, let your baldness drive you to long that much more for Christ’s return, when every tear will wiped away and, perhaps, every hair restored.
- If baldness is part of the plan, then let’s enjoy God’s sense of humor. Perhaps he’s asking us not to take ourselves too seriously.
- Finally, on a practical side, go with the flow. Baldness isn’t unattractive. A bald man fighting it, trying to hang on to the last strands of hair; well, I’ve never seen anyone look good in a comb-over. A $20 set of clippers sets you up for a lifetime of haircuts.
19 July, 2004